Resilience is the ability to recover quickly from illness, change and adverse events.  Resilience is a tool or resource you can draw upon and strengthen.  Consider these few tactics that help develop resilience: 

1) Build relationships with those you can turn to for support and who are dependable in their ability to offer acceptance, patience and empathy. 

2) Practice daily positive self-talk by achieving small goals you can reflect on for self-praise.  Tip:  Identify what you’ve been putting off and start there. 

3) Develop reflexes to spot the lessons learned from daily mistakes, slipups and frustrations, and nip self-criticism in the bud. 

4) Maintain a forward-looking mindset with enjoyable goals/activities/tasks planned for days or weeks in front of you. 

Each of these tactics helps build resilience you can count on when the going gets tough. 

Raising Self-Esteem  

Positive self-esteem is a resource tool when adversity hits.  You’re able to make more effective decisions, feel confident and sense hope when the going gets tough.  If you question the level of your self-esteem, try these action steps to boost it: 

1)  Identify the positive human qualities you possess by using this massive list: exercise will make you more aware of the real you.  You may be surprised at how many positive qualities you actually possess. 

2)  Catch negative self-talk quickly and ask, “What is causing me to think this way right now?”  This exercise will erode negative, knee-jerk reactions to the everyday mishaps we all experience. 

3)  When mistakes happen, don’t target yourself for self-criticism.  Instead, focus on the decision and changes you need to consider next time. 

4)  Everyone reacts with discouragement or emotions to mishaps and unfortunate events.  The life skill to develop is learning to overcome a negative emotional response quickly and restoring courage to try again. 

5)  Gravitate toward those who validate your self-worth, particularly good listeners. 

6)  If you struggle with self-esteem, it can be easier to be critical of others, just as you are with yourself.  The act of accepting others along with their shortcomings has a double-healing effect of improving relationships with others while you actually improve the one with yourself.